For better, for worse, in sickness and in health, till death do us part: probably you want something more original than these traditional ones. Writing a lovable, personal speech for your loved one? We cannot deny that this is difficult, but it will be worthwhile once you recite these special words in front of your beloved. Once you have decided to write your own vows, the difficulties begin: where to start, what is too personal and how to recite them? This article gives you a checklist with a variety of do’s and don’ts once you start writing your vows.
You know each other’s moves, ticks and everything else that makes you unique to each other. That is why you want to personalize your vows, so they represent this uniqueness. It is important you decide beforehand which tone of voice you prefer. Do you want a room full of laughing guests? Or are you going for an emotional declaration of love?
If you know the tone of voice, you can start writing the vows. And remember: this must come straight from the heart. Ask yourself what you want to tell. Do you want to retrieve memories? Share a special moment? And in which way do you want to promise eternal loyalty to your partner?
Writing vows can be a lovely activity to do with your betrothed; after all, you recover and relive all the beautiful moments. However, we believe that it might be more fun to do it separately and surprise your better half during the big day.
Our checklist with useful tips
- Ask yourself a number of questions in advance. For example, why do I want to marry my partner? Why does he or she makes me so happy? What have we overcome the past years? Which beautiful moments have we shared together? What are his or her good and bad qualities? In this way, you end up with the answers you wish to include in your vows.
- Try to share a deeply personal or humorous anecdote in your vows. This anecdote should symbolize your bond with each other. Think about a unique moment when you met or a special trip you made in the past years.
- Make a real promise in your wedding vows. What do you want to promise to him or her?
- Tell what your fiancé means to you. What good qualities does he or she has that brings out the best in you?
- Aren’t you so fond of writing? Instead of writing you can share a beautiful poem or lyrics of a song to convey your feelings.
- Stay true to yourself. You don’t have to impress anyone.
- Your vow must not be too long. It should be between one and three minutes.
- Write a few keywords down or print the text so you could lean on something when the nerves strike – and trust us, they will!
- Don’t forget the tissues. It can become emotional!
- Make sure your best man / bridesmaid(s) is / are nearby to take it over from you if you get lost.
What will be included in your vows? Share with us, and perhaps they will end up in our annual top wedding vows!